jaee jadhav

4 months ago

The Minimalist Mindset

I used to be one of those who tried to do everything at once. You know the kind, of juggling a million things, trying to be the best at everything - school, work, home stuff, being the best daughter, mother, wife, friend, you name it. I was always told I was the "Pillar" of the family, so I felt like I had to keep it all together, all the time. But let me tell you, trying to keep up appearances and always be "happy" is exhausting. Who can be superhuman all the time? Not me, that's for sure. I didn't have the luxury of a ton of family support; balancing a career, raising an ailing kid, keeping up with social obligations, and being the perfect homemaker was just too much.

I hit my 30s and realized I was failing at pretty much everything. My state was like “a broken wristwatch”. I lost track of my time, movement, and progress in life. It felt like being in the dark not knowing if you were moving backwards or forward. I took a step back and decided it was time to slow down and figure out what mattered to me. The decision was made to focus on ONLY two things at a time - my "Primary" and "Secondary" projects, as I call them. 

My primary project was (and still is) being a mother and focusing on my kid's health and well-being. Wished to give a hug that goes too far and not merely get soaked in the busyness of routine every day. My secondary project is(and will be) always something I genuinely love and enjoy most - crafting, reading, blogging, upcycling, photography, etc. 

Upon reflection, it has come to my attention that when I concentrate on only two specific aspects of my life, they knowingly and unknowingly take care of each other. For instance, spending some good quality time with my little one gives me a boost of energy and inspiration for my crafts. And on the flip side, when I take a little me-time to read, blog, or photograph, I feel all refreshed and ready to jump back into mom mode. 

I started saying ‘NO’ to things that didn't bring me joy or drain my energy - toxic people, crowded places, gossip, unnecessary outings, the rat race, over-the-top celebrations, etc. 

They say, inhaling Peppermint oil stimulates the senses, awakening the mind and increasing alertness. It is one of the best essential oils used in aromatherapy to combat fatigue, boost energy levels, and improve concentration. Adapting consciously to a ‘Minimalist Lifestyle’ since 2020 has been like ‘inhaling Peppermint oil’ for me. This whole ‘Minimalist Lifestyle’ thing is all about asking "Why". Don't just go with the flow or do stuff because it's trendy or in fashion or you feel like you're supposed to. Instead, take a moment to ask yourself why you're doing it. Tune into your feelings, and stay in the moment! It's all about finding happiness in who you are, and how you spend your days!

Prompt of Story #3 – Peppermint oil, a hug that goes too far, a broken wristwatch   

Prompt by: Authoropod


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Comments ( 11 )

Narayani Manapadam

4 months ago

I like how you incorporate the prompts like metaphors, and in day to day routine. Keep sharing

jaee jadhav

4 months ago

Thankyou! :)

Satyajeet Jadhav

4 months ago

Another excellent post! Instead of operating on autopilot to satisfy some false standards set by society, it is important to identify what works best for oneself. A lot of us could benefit from this advice.

jaee jadhav

4 months ago

Glad you could relate Satyajeet!

What a take on the prompts as metaphors! Everyone, more so women come to such crossroads at some point of time. Very well written post. Loved it. And can identify with the situation. Though never cared for society, being a support for everyone is a drive enough to be like superwoman. But as they say .. better late than never.

jaee jadhav

4 months ago

Thanks much Neerja for your feedback !

Romila C

4 months ago

The story is a heartfelt and introspective journey of self-discovery and prioritization. The metaphor of a "broken wristwatch" effectively captures the sense of losing track of time and direction, highlighting the struggle to balance multiple roles and responsibilities. The analogy of peppermint oil and its role in stimulating the senses and increasing alertness beautifully parallels the conscious decision to adopt a minimalist lifestyle.

jaee jadhav

4 months ago

Thanks much Romila for your feedback !

manan dedhia

4 months ago

That first paragraph must have been emotionally draining to write, while simultaneously the closure of a cathartic period. Thank you. Please keep writing.

jaee jadhav

4 months ago

Yes it was! Took some to realize many aspects over the years. Better late than never :)

Tanvi Agarwal

4 months ago

How creatively you used the elemeng “the broken wristwatch”, this is something that took my attention.

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