“Real” Mother
On last Thursday I was dropping Vivaan at his daycare. Since Mother’s day was coming on Sunday they had a prop to take photo with your kid. I saw some of the mums taking photos and quickly proceeded to drop Vivaan. Thought that came to my mind was I am not a “real” mother so I don’t deserve to take this picture.
I have always been firm on working even after having Vivaan. I want to build my career and have made necessary adjustments for doing so. Be it employing a nanny or sending him to daycare. As a daycare kid myself I know that it is a very good alternative for working moms and I have seen Vivaan thrive since he started going to daycare. Then why does it always feel bad when I drop him or why do I find justifying myself even at my workplaces on why my son goes to daycare. I am like “Hello, do you want me to deliver or not? So why are you asking why my kid goes to daycare!”
With multiple advertisements on the internet and on tv there is a certain image of a mother. A mother who will sacrifice and sacrifice for the benefit of her kids. Mother who will eat cold food just to make sure her kid eats properly. Mother who can’t stay away from her kids even for a minute. I personally don’t relate to any of this. As much as I love playing and spending time with Vivaan, I also love my personal space. I love reading him books but I also love reading my own books. I love going on holidays with him but I also loved the one trip I have taken in last 4.5 years with my friends. I love cooking his favorite food but I also employ a cook for all of our everyday meals. Does this make me a bad mom? I don’t think so. I think it makes me a happy mom. :)
Wrote this after reading a WhatsApp status of my sister-in-law where she rightly said in better words that being a mother doesn’t mean you ignore your needs even if it is convenient for society to assume so.
Here is us with the card he made in his daycare for mother’s day! 😀
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